tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7436717201345268718.post6798477353021290367..comments2023-05-06T00:34:58.490-07:00Comments on From a Corner of a Foreign Field...: Acceptance? Tell THAT to Inigo Montoya!Eleanorgjhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00672862557542492003noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7436717201345268718.post-65407284100509403072011-12-28T09:59:07.635-08:002011-12-28T09:59:07.635-08:00I have so many things I could say, but I will keep...I have so many things I could say, but I will keep it short and sweet. <br /><br />1) I agree with Anonymous.<br /><br />2) I think the quote from Mennonite in a little Black dress is DEAD on, as is your interpretation of it<br /><br />3) Monica sounds awesome and wise. I bet she is hot too. ;)<br /><br />4) And lastly, I will leave you wise a quote from my mom: "Acceptance is not surrender. It is an amazing act of will"<br /><br />Peace.Michaelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03374748912781616019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7436717201345268718.post-56806319152100544982011-12-28T06:33:03.978-08:002011-12-28T06:33:03.978-08:00This makes a lot of sense. I hope I can hold fast...This makes a lot of sense. I hope I can hold fast to my hopes and ideals, but cast adrift the fucknuts. Yes, I do have a few of those, who seem to, inexplicibly, revel in hurting me. I don't understand it. I think I've been holding fast in the hope that positivity will somehow melt the negativity. But it isn't working.<br />I read a book recently, Mennonite in a Little Black Dress, a memoir by Rhonda Janzen. A successful academic, Rhonda's life implodes at 42, when her brilliant, but bi-polar husband leaves her for a man named Bob from Gay.com and she is involved in a debilitating car accident. She goes home to recover and rediscovers her Mennonite roots.<br />Her sister shares this with her:<br />"He SHOULD have made you miserable. I don't think middle age is about learning to live with ambiguity; it is just the opposite. It's about finally developing the resolve to reject ambiguity and embrace simplicity. What could be simpler than saying 'no matter how I feel about him, I will not expose myself to his damage'? I'm not saying it isn't painful. But it is simple."<br />It is simple, isn't it?Eleanorgjhttp://www.eleanorgwyn-jones.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7436717201345268718.post-87578665857759736962011-12-27T21:03:22.307-08:002011-12-27T21:03:22.307-08:00I agree--to an extent. We must never give up on ou...I agree--to an extent. We must never give up on ourselves. We are powerful--not quitters--and we are capable of incredible things, including amazing transformations--but that happen from within. We must not quit on ourselves. <br /><br />I diverge (in the yellow woods) when it comes to quitting in regard to other people. Caviat: I am a teacher who believes in her students and wants to help them achieve incredible things. I never give up on a student who's willing to work to achieve more. Another Caviat: I am a mother who loves her child and will not give up hope for his momentary, daily, yearly, and lifetime achievements. <br /><br />But here is the (sometimes painful but necessary) revelation: I CANNOT control the behavior of anyone else. There. I said it. It is one of he most frustrating things in life, and this is where the serenity prayer offers hope--in the acceptance. In the wisdom. I can't prevent a Fucknut from behaving like a Fucknut. I wish I could. I've tried over the years, and I have grey hairs to prove it. <br /><br />So I will not give up on myself. Your revelation in this respect is HUGE. But sometimes we have to clean house, accept people for who thy are and what they are (or are not) in our lives, and move forward with wisdom, grace, and courage. That's not quitting. It's not giving up. It's thriving. It's a choice to get beyond struggling for survival. Thrive on!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com